Finally, I saw Fur and enjoyed it quite immensely, infact, I have seen it 4 times

.
I have to say I love what Steven Shainberg did with the movie, it's quite fluid, all about movement, the way he injected humour into various scenes was very charming and the portrayal of the "freaks" in this movie should be commended, they didn't stand out to be stared at. Like The Hours, I kind of forgot that the movie only covers a short period of her life as I watched it.
The handling of the relationships between the characters was portrayed in a very real way. It is great to watch a movie depicting the disintegration of a marriage without the expected cinematic histrionics and the beginning of another without the much expected "take off your clothes ASAP" headlights. Although with much angst, there was a realisation in the way Allan Arbus released Diane to become Diane Arbus, his wonderful toast at her birthday party just made my heart swell.
The performances are really to be commended, all were absolutely excellent and on point. The depiction of the relationship between Allan and Diane showed how utterly reliant Allan was on Diane. When she left his side, the look on his face when he was trying to arrange the models so he could take their pics was so sad. You see the realisation he came to that "Arbus Family Portraits" is not what it should be without Diane's input and how terrified he was. His attempt to match Lionel by hair was also quite humourous

.
Diane and Lionel are just two peas in a pod. I absolutely appreciated how commanding Lionel was and how charmingly he disarmed Diane with his very inquisitive questions, he was so uncouth! I guess someone like Lionel can differentiate between someone looking at him in wonder and someone looking at him with perhaps repulsion and I think he saw wonder in Diane's eyes when he saw her looking at him through her window as he moved into the building. Diane is also no slouch, she was game to step into the unknown, scared of it? yes but still willing to explore it, her countenance simply changed as soon as she stepped into Lionel's world. The dull coloured clothes she wore became very colourful, she smiled a lot more and stood up to her mother who in the first scenes dominated her with just one quip.
The playfulness between Diane and Lionel, NK and RDJ made their coupling so easy, it was the portrayal of a great friendship.
FUR is quite an intricate gem, you simply can't pull it apart too much. Another thing I commend it for is portraying Arbus as someone who actually cultivated friendships with her subjects, that although her portraits may be gritty, brutal or stark, she simply didn't go snapping whatever she saw without respect or regard. We didn't really see Diane take a portrait of any of the "freaks", the portrait of Lionel that she eventually took wasn't as he would have been recognised but Diane became a part of their world and they had respect for her.